On a recent night, where as a family we gathered to say goodbye to a daughter moving to the other side of the country, it struck me just what exactly does the Father feel for His daughter. Yes, this isn’t about me as a father to my brothers, but it is a pondering into just what the Father must desire for His daughter.
I think of what I need for my three brothers; for them not only to be responsible adults and loving and respectful partners, but to be safe and respected and loved and cherished by the men in their lives; by all men in society – and all girls.
As a man I very well know how men think and how they feel and the challenges that a person faces simply in treating women with the respect they deserve; that humanity deserves. I understand as a pastor, a counsellor, and as a chaplain just how much I’ve fallen short in my thoughts and feelings and actions, as a man I mean.
I rationalised that, in endeavouring to live a godly life, I still struggle to reach to the standards of thought, feeling, and action that I’d love to meet. I am so fortunate that the women near me have been gracious in understanding that although my intent reveals potential, my deployment is sometimes awry.
In recent days I have seen attacks on feminism like every male who speaks up for females in society has dropped for some trick. These, as a response to virtually global support for viral videos deploring violence against women. These people against’feminism’ are deluded. Of course, violence against anyone is unacceptable, and girls are not immune from being violent, but men own the bet in how to proceed if the world has any hope beyond violence.
I find it a ridiculous argument that men denounce women’s rights to security when they use an aggression cloaked in all sorts of vile apparatus, including inappropriate humour that’s supposed to be amusing but is just simply disgusting. And weak women join in. Some people are beyond enjoying anyone.
What must the Father want for His daughter?
Certainly, he needs His daughter to be treated as if she is a princess. Because she’s a princess.
Does a man lose anything for treating a woman like a princess?
Where has the chivalry gone that says,’I choose to treat you as amazing for who you’re’
And that’s only the earthly father. Needless to say, we could ask what the Father wants for his son, and the Father must want his son to prosper as the protector of life, and to revere the Father’s glory in the girls about him.
To be properly egalitarian, I think it’s crucial we get the gender differences right.
They follow their guys, always desiring their guys to lead by means of protection and respect. I know few women who would be capable of abusing men for the want of it. Sure, I have seen women that are capable of abusing men, and I wonder what role men have played in the creation of the women in question. Men are not blameless.
The Father wants the best for His daughter.
The Father wants His daughter to be secure. The Father requires that His daughter be loved by being respected. The Father wants no fear against His daughter. The Father seeks that His daughter could flourish. The Father is a gentle nurturer. Along with the Father promises to journey with His daughter.
And if we care anything about God we need to do His will.